Learning Tantra before knowing about it!
When I was 19 years old, one of my best friends back then introduced me to a course named „Good Handz“. It was a 5-week online course created by a guy named Aaron. As the name said, the course was about learning how to become good with your hands again.
What first seemed like a funny experience, turned into a life-changing experience. As my friend and I, back then living the belief we’d be heterosexual, walked through these weeks, we both learned to understand our hands as an expansion of our heart. The course was sold as a way for men to have more meaningful sexual experiences with women, yet to us it became much more than that.
This guy Aaron taught us to understand that even if we touch something without own hands, we are also touched by it. In our minds we always said „I touch “, yet that changed as we understood that we with our hands always are also receiving touch. Our hands are also being touched by what touches them, and that awareness is lost for most of us.
Have you ever thought about it like this? Have you ever felt the sensation on your hands as you touch something or someone?
It flows both ways. We are always the ones that touch and that are being touched.
This simple understanding made me completely re-experience all things physical. Especially sensual and sexual experiences became a whole new playground. For years I have ignored so many parts of me that not only I can touch with my hands, yet also can these parts touch me through the hands. Through the expansion of my heart.
Back then, the term Tantra was unknown to me, yet this idea is also deeply rooted in tantric philosophy. And up until I had my first official tantric experience, I didn’t realize how much of it I already invited into my life!
As a Tantra teacher, today I hear many say they never tried tantra or know nothing about it. I always respond with „Yeah you do! Tantra simply means connection, and you for sure have practiced or done that before, right? “.
One of the exercises that stood out for me in that book was the „3 erection-areas “. The practice goes as follows.
Take at least 30 minutes to be by yourself, make it comfy, light some candles, or do whatever to make the space around you feel relaxing and safe.
Start touching areas of your own body that you find not very sexually arousing. Parts you might often ignore, neglect or even judge. That you do for at least 8-10 minutes, before you move on to other areas of your body that feel rather sensual, and you enjoy more to touch. Leave the most arousing areas out still.
Once you hit 20-25 minutes, feel free to touch all parts of your body in the ways you like. Experience what this now feels like, compared to going directly to the most sexually erective areas of your body.
Feel free to try it yourself and let me know in the comments how that was for you!
With Dragon Love,
Mo
